Forgiveness

Forgiveness - A virtue considered to be the greatest of all.
True .. Not true? hmmm speculative.
My thoughts on it
When you tend to forget the actual mistakes which could have made you toil your brain to numbness or which could have given you some sleepless nights, inspite of these if you still can be humane to the person thats what is true Forgival.
Now how many of us can achieve that. I think one needs to be a saint to do that. So assuming its beyond capacity of we ordinary mortals, what would it be for us.
There are a number of ways people would react when they are hurt by others:
1. Stop all kinds of communication.
2. Treat the person as if he/she were invisible.
3. Fight back and give a taste of his/her own apple.
4. Create negative thoughts about the person in others
5. Find ways to hurt more than you have suffered.
so there goes the virtue of forgiveness to gutters. Thats how one set of people react.
There is one more set of people who take it all even if whats going on is wrong, curse the other person silently, and still smile at them as though everything in the world is absolutely alright. These are the kind of people who will never think good about anybody. Its very tough to make out such people.
Forgiveness is a lost word in their dictionary.
Then comes the last set who think whatever happens, lets just take it in as it is our destiny.So do you need to retaliate? Their answer would be a big "NO". Ask them why and you will feel you are in a philosophy classroom. But do they forget the mistakes done by the others. No they wouldnt.. they would keep thinking about it lifelong and suffer. Ask them, have they forgiven the person. Their answer would be yes.
This set completely changes the meaning of Forgiveness in their dictionary. For them Forgival is take it all and suffer without forgetting it.
But honestly speaking, sometimes i also feel forgival cannot exist in the century we live. Asking for forgival is as simple as saying the word "Sorry". Nobody means it when they say it. Before saying sorry, its important to realise if we would forgive if others had done the same mistake and asked us sorry.
Realising a mistake is not enough and just asking "Sorry" will not undo the mistake or how much it hurt. Its important to genuinely repent what we have done without expecting a forgival in return. Its important not to make the same mistake again. Pestering a person to forcefully forgive is never a way to repent. A forceful forgival is never a heartfelt forgival.
But how many of us really do that?
Whenever the apology is genuine without a minute level of expectations in return, without letting your ego blocking you, thats when we will see the greatest virtue of all - Forgiveness in return.